Selfish about sex, am I?
Posted by admin | Under fixing erectile dysfunction Monday Feb 1, 2010My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time, long time. He is older then I by eight years. He has kids (all grown) I have no kids. I haven’t been able to get pregnant (due to a unknown medical problem).
We first meet each other when I was 27 years old and he was 35. Nearly EVERY NIGHT for the first ten years we would have intercourse, he had a very high sex drive. However, during that same time I constantly had "Lady Problems" once I had a menstrual period that last 178 days, none stop. I had no health insurance so I just learned to live with it and hoped it would just fix it’s self. (it eventually did)
Here we are thirteen years later and I’m 40 years old and have finally got to the root of all my "Lady Problems" and in the process of removing a cysts from my ovaries. My biological clock is just about to run out of time for me to get pregnant, the Dr. says if I’m gonna do it better be soon. But! at this point he can no longer have real sex. He suffers from Erectile Dysfunction due to diabetes. AND! He is not serious about taking his medication and doesn’t care to see a doctor, he doesn’t even try to self educate about alternative medicines.
For the past two years we’ve had sex but not intercourse. He penis gets partially erect so he can still ejaculate but it’s not hard enough to penetrate me, so I have to use my hand to "get him off" and he uses "toy’s" to take care of me. How can I get pregnant with that kind of sex?. Not to mention sex only comes once every few weeks some times months go by before we do it again. I’m in my prime age, as with most woman in their late thirties-early forty’s, I am always horny. (Men are in there prim at age eighteen to twenty seven ‘ish.)
I am in dyer need of real male penetration!!!
But here’s the kicker…… we hardly have sex anymore yet I’ve been finding porn magazines and DVD’s hidden in his drawers. Apparently he’s been have sex more often then I have. My thinking at this point is "If I have to share is penis with those woman in the magazines then he should understand sharing my vagina with that which allows me to have a orgasm" which would be other men because porno magazines just don’t do it for me……
I have invested A LOT of time in this man but even if I don’t get pregnant I still need to have real sex! and I don’t think I’m going to get "real penetration and love making" from him. If you where me would you go outside the relationship to satisfy your sexual needs?
sorry i can’t solve your problem. But I don’t think you are selfish – i just posted something about my situation that is similar. Although i don’t want a kid I do want to be satisfied…
And I also found that it is very difficult for my man to ejaculate. I suspect that was because he masturbated for a long time. And in the past few years probably he only "cum" in me by penetration for less than 10 times…So your situation is really not too bad. I am trying to say i think men need to be supported and understood/helped. I do believe that is the solution – trouble is they should understand it is important to talk about it and work it out together…it takes two…
Go separate way and get a real relationship don’t you think. Only if you don’t love him anymore.
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I don’t mean to be rude at all, but you’re asking for opinions.
If I were you, and if I were a woman, I’d be married to any man I’m living with. That way there’s commitment on his part, including to having a family. As it is, he might feel he can go "part-time" regarding your concerns and plans.
If I were a woman, I’d want a chivalrous, full-time partner and friend who’d plan goals with me, inspire me, and who’d willingly and without hesitation give his life for me and for his children. I’d accept nothing less.
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it is too late to think about pregnancy the only possibility you have is test tube technique.For sex satisfaction keep on using toys
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sorry i can’t solve your problem. But I don’t think you are selfish – i just posted something about my situation that is similar. Although i don’t want a kid I do want to be satisfied…
And I also found that it is very difficult for my man to ejaculate. I suspect that was because he masturbated for a long time. And in the past few years probably he only "cum" in me by penetration for less than 10 times…So your situation is really not too bad. I am trying to say i think men need to be supported and understood/helped. I do believe that is the solution – trouble is they should understand it is important to talk about it and work it out together…it takes two…
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