Problems during sex.?
Posted by admin | Under fixing erectile dysfunction Sunday Jan 10, 2010I’m completely lost on what the main problem is and how to treat this, but here’s what’s going on:
-I’m either extremely hard or I can’t get it up.
-90% of the time when I put on a condom (Ultra-thin, fyi) I lose my erection
-I occasionally have problems with cumming too early (for lack of a better description.. it’s more like.. I can’t control how long I last, unless I stop in the middle of sex for a minute whenever I feel myself getting close.. however stupid that may sound)
-I sometimes lose my erection in the middle of sex.
I believe that’s it, heh. I don’t know if it’s a mix of slight cases of Erectile Dysfunction or Premature Ejaculation or whatever, but I’d like to "fix" it asap. So any suggestions would be really appreciated.
just keep thinking you’re getting lucky and you’ll stay hard
its time for you to take viagra
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VIAGRA!!!
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drugs can mess you up with those kinds of problems
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Um fyi, that 3rd thing you mentioned, that’s MOST guys! And yeah the rest, mild case ED
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How old are you, problems with erections could mean spine problems or circulation problems as well as cholesterol and heart problems, a trip to the doctor for a physical should easy your mind.
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work with a doctor…..
You need to relax and enjoy yourself. Your "issues" usually happen to guys who are trying to hard or constantly worrying about their performance. Or you are just not that interested in who you are having sex with
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Don’t talk to people about that on here. Go to your doctor.
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see your doctor or meditate.
google can help too.
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HA! man that’s tough… maybe you just need to stay aroused
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My suggestion… more foreplay….work on satisfying her first….slowing you down a bit might help things.
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a loooong time student in the Arts…
i wouldnt use vigara espically if you are between 18-36, maybe it is just anxiety
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either stop getting drunk or stoned beforehand or get smiling bob to help you out.
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i know that i have lost an erection in the middle of it when i was going to fast or hard for a long time i think it was from being tired may be you should slow down a little and let the girl do some work too also try and relax as in fell comfortable and not too exited although that is hard to do it helps .
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Try to forget about the problem and just enjoy the Sex!!! This happened to me a couple of times and then i realized that it was more of a confidence/anxiety issue….I’d start to worry and then it would happen.
If your still having problems take a half pill of Viagra, it’ll get you solid as a rock and when that happens its a total confidence boost…..Problem Solved 
As for the Pre-Mat-Ejaculation, Just keep thinking "Old Ladies, Dead Puppys!" And keep repeating it to yourself over and over. Works Everytime
And Mz_So_Cal I’m quite insulted!!!
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Maybe you should practice building your stamina by yourself!
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switch your sexual orientation. whatever gender you are having sex with try the opposite.
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Life baby
just keep thinking you’re getting lucky and you’ll stay hard
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taking an anti-depresent or any other med’s that could mess with you like that.
but other than that depending on your age its time for viagra
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You need to learn control. Condoms are a must, so you need to come to terms with it. That may mean you try to find a thinner condom or one that has some of that ‘hot gel’ in it. They say if you have trouble with condoms you should only pleasure yourself while wearing one. The stop and start thing is normal and okay while you are learning control. Condoms actually help with that as well. While you are getting over condom phobia, a good idea is something called a ‘cock ring’ and you can get one that has a vibrating bullet made by trojan where ever you buy condoms. Or go to an adult shop and get one that can be used over and over.
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if your an older gentleman than you’ll probably need viagra
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It sounds to me that it is mental. Almost all men have to stop and refocus not to climax before the woman. This redirecting your thinking to try and not climax, may be what is making you lose your "hardness". I think with practice and time, you will be able to do both think and keep the hardness longer. This is normal…. (I am a nurse and been married for 33 years)
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are u on any meds for depression & such..that sometimes can mess with sexual desire…you should just go to the doc & explain your situation & far as taking breaks, my man has to do that too..so i figure thats just normal…good luck i figure it isn’t anything majorly wrong maybe the doc will have some tips on what u can do
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seriously, you should check out this link….hope it helps…
http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/tantric/tantricsex.html
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My question to you is, how old are you and are you diabetic. Medications or combination of meds can sort of get in the way of things for a man so to speak. Talk with your doctor before taking any ED meds. Good Luck.
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Please add your age here. Diff problems at diff ages.
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Hey sweets…maybe you should go to the doctor…it might be serious.. Good Luck : )
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You should see your doctor about this…but in the meantime, I have a link that might help you figure this out. There is a connection between PE and ED in some men…so don’t think that you are alone.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/premature-ejaculation/DS00578
HTH
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This problem seems like erectile dysfunction. It will be necessary to get a doctor to make a legit diagnosis.
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viagra
or there is this nasal delivery shit that the radio has been going about
look it up
good luck also
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just dont have sex then
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ED… talk to a doctor or get viagra
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Maybe you are setting yourself up for it every time because you expect for it to happen each time. You need to raise your confidence about it. And if you think a girl is going to judge you on it, you’re wrong. Lots of guys have problems like that. It’s no biggie. Just see a doctor and ask for advice. And don’t worry about it.
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go see you doctor…. you got a problem
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if you dont want to go to a doctor like everyone on here is saying (basically) try web md, i go there for like everything
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then lts time to see your doctor about getting you some viagra
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I got the same problem, I don’t know what they do not recognize guys in here that we’re not porn stars and they don’t either it’s so frustrated because my wife she thinks that is because her, that the weight after have a baby is her fault but is not that! I make sure to take care of her
Anyway I recommend to see a doctor a good check out is good for your self, there is several cases that if you’re 18 – 35 and you have the problem is just mental 30% and health 45%
maybe you can take the "blue pill" there is not problem BUT check with your Doctor 1st no all people can do it !
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Hey Don’t worry about it…just pass the weed.
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your stressing out to much sex is time for relaxing and enjoying an experimenting. You should put the condom on 20 or so minutes before sex. Done use male enchanments your just stressed and need relaxing. Good luck : Hellas
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Don’t listen to people screaming Viagra at you. If you are truly worried about it, talk to your doctor. My husband used to have this same problem, but we were very young at the time, so it wasn’t a "it’s time for Viagra! problem" but he has grown out of it, you know, gotten more stamina. Good luck, don’t freak too much, just talk to your doctor.
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I’m no doctor by any means, but I am 37-38 years old and I have been through alot. The penis has a mind of its own. When "He" wants to do something, "He" will. The trick is to learn what makes your penis do what you want it to do. What I used to do is think that theres a reason that it would go down. Ex: the girl had an STD.All I am saying is that it is natural and nothing is wrong with you. It happens to all men.
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you need to see a doctor..there is also a sign of a mental block in your case.
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mayb u jus cant hang
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talk 2 your doctor
they would know better than the people on yahoo
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Doctors often classify premature ejaculation as either primary or secondary:
You have primary premature ejaculation if you’ve had the problem for as long as you’ve been sexually active.
-OR-
You have secondary premature ejaculation if you developed the condition after having had previous, satisfying sexual relationships without ejaculatory problems.
Experts are still trying to determine exactly what causes premature ejaculation. While it was once thought to be only psychological, we now know premature ejaculation is more complicated and involves a complex interaction of both psychological and biological factors.
Psychological causes
Some doctors believe that early sexual experiences may establish a pattern that can be difficult to change later in life such as:
-Situations in which you may have hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered
-Guilty feelings that increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters
Other factors that can play a role in causing premature ejaculation include:
Erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining their erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate which can be difficult to change.
Anxiety. Many men with premature ejaculation also have problems with anxiety — either specifically about sexual performance, or caused by other issues.
Biological causes
Experts believe a number of biological factors may contribute to premature ejaculation, including:
-Abnormal hormone levels
-Abnormal levels of brain chemicals called neurotransmitters
-Abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system
-Certain thyroid problems
-Inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra
Inherited traits
Rarely, premature ejaculation is caused by:
Nervous system damage resulting from surgery or trauma
Withdrawal from narcotics or a drug called trifluoperazine (Stelazine), used to treat anxiety and other mental health problems
Although both biological and psychological factors likely play a role in most cases of premature ejaculation, experts think a primarily biological cause is more likely if it has been a lifelong problem (primary premature ejaculation).
Risk factors
Various factors can increase your risk of premature ejaculation, including:
Impotence. You may be at increased risk of premature ejaculation if you occasionally or consistently have trouble getting or maintaining an erection. Fear of losing your erection may cause you to rush through sexual encounters.
As many as one in three men with premature ejaculation also have trouble maintaining an erection.
Health problems. If you have a medical concern that causes you to feel anxious during sex, such as a heart problem, you may have an increased likelihood of hurrying to ejaculate.
Stress. Emotional or mental strain in any area of your life can play a role in premature ejaculation, often limiting your ability to relax and focus during sexual encounters.
Certain medications. Rarely, drugs that influence the action of chemical messengers in the brain (psychotropics) may cause premature ejaculation.
Talk with your doctor if you ejaculate sooner than you and your partner wish during most sexual encounters. Although you may feel you should be able to fix the problem on your own, you may need treatment to help you achieve and sustain a satisfying sex life.
To learn more go to the link provided below. Good Luck!
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http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/premature-ejaculation/DS00578
well arent we all suffering from that, the third one lol. I find that going slow is actually quite better, you last longer and penetrate deeper lol. i would’nt know since i’m not a doctor but i’d say maybe your allergic to the material your using? or maby you just need Viagra, then again viagra and drugs are not really a good idea.
So hmm i have no idea but i’m going to go with the erectile dysfunction lol yeah.
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um me lol
Your problem could easily be related to numerous things, such as stress in your life outside of the bedroom, complications within the relationship, and a diet that is not receiving enough good, solid nutrients. Also, you may not be getting enough exercise, water, and so forth.
Some of the "ultra thin" condoms can be "ultra tight" or there could be some other factor dealing with them not allowing you to remain erect. Perhaps deep down, you really just want it without a condom. (don’t do it yet)
My recommendation is for you to ensure you are receiving enough B vitamins (all of them), include a 30 minute walk at least every other/second day (with wonderful scenery), and if you have problems with stress outside of the bedroom, you will probably have to think how to solve them (begin on your own and don’t consult a doctor right away). If you’re not married, don’t go spilling all the beans to your bedroom buddy, but if you two are close enough, you may wish to mention something is up, and you’ll have to work it out. Remain calm and positive.
If you’ve been enjoying one too many beers or wines, reduce your intake back to being normal, and drink more water.
There’s no guarantee you can fix it immediately, and you may have to ‘exercise’ your "lurve machine" for a while before it finally behaves the way that You Command it to. i.e., right as you’re about to come, glance around the room at something neutral, like I dunno, a highlighter… then look at your babe and go oh snap, too good, and then look over at the, uhhh, light bulb… ah yes, inside that light bulb is a nifty wire… shit, he’s gone, uh… look at the babe. Guess what? You probably lasted 5 to 30 seconds longer than you would have originally.
She won’t care, and if she’s bitchy about it, like… don’t take that.
Anyhow, you may need a good solid month of working on this before you notice even the slightest improvements. If you think your babe is just AMAZING and can’t get over her, though… this may be very challenging, and you may have to explain to her that you have no clue what’s wrong, nor why you can’t keep going for her, but that she does mean the world to you… I dunno… it depends on the girl…
B vitamins. Water. Mild exercise
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Totally normal, probably psychological.
Women have the same first issue you have (either wet or not, whether or not horny).
Lot’s of men lose erections with the addition of a condom. I would suggest "practicing" with a condom.
It’s common for men to blow their load if they don’t take a breather… slowing down, thinking about baseball, etc.
Losing the erection in the middle of sex is also normal… but stems from psychological things.. like nervousness or performance anxiety.
I would guess that there’s nothing physically wrong with you. I don’t know how old you are or your track record with your partners, but my guess is you should worry more about finding someone you’re comfortable with and these issues will subside substantially.
Also, the above suggestion about lots of foreplay is a good one. In fact, if you can satisfy your partner before plunging in there, it will take a lot of the pressure off so you can enjoy the rest of the sexual experience more.
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Loss of erection means loss of blood in the penis. Try a cock ring. It will keep the blood in your penis so it stays erect. I think there are many types, but basically it is a rubber band that goes around your penis and testicles when you become erect. Good luck to you. It sounds very frustrating.
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it happens to more men than they will admit, don’t let it get you down. DO NOT be afraid to consult a DR. it is in your and your partners best interest. The sooner you see a Dr. and get checked out the better. It’s all right, hang in there (no pun intended)
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Google or Doctor or both
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