New To Sex And Needing Serious Advice?
Posted by admin | Under fixing erectile dysfunction Friday Jan 22, 2010Hey Guys, I am a pretty average 17 year old male, in 5′11" tall, 150lbs with an athletic build. I have been with my girlfriend for well over 8 months now and have been sexually active right from the outset (We are each others first and at this stage, only, sexual partners as well).
However, only recently we have actually tried to have intercourse and it is proving to be quite difficult. When I go to insert my penis inside her, i ejaculate (even without orgasm – an extra slap in the face) almost instantly, definitely within the first five seconds.
As you can probably understand, this is a very frustrating and embarrassing thing to happen. Thankfully my girlfriend is very patient and understanding about this problem but deep down i feel very ashamed at my inability to show her the time i think she deserves. I really do love her with all my heart and i know she feels the same in return. I have no troubles with pleasing her with my fingers and through oral sex but I know that she wishes to take it to the next level, as do I.
It should be noted that from hand jobs, blow jobs and through masturbation, it takes me between 10 and 20 minutes to climax, so why is it that when we try to have sex, i only last a few seconds?
Do I have erectile dysfunction? premature ejaculation? How normal is this? And finally, is there any way i can fix this problem?
I would appreciate only serious advice as this is quite a worrying issue, and because I am SURE that i will get at least ONE reply urging me to use protection; We are using condoms and she is on the pill.
Any help will be greatly appreciated!
Thankyou very much 
have you tried using bottle rockets? it can really help.
have you tried using bottle rockets? it can really help.
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it’s prem ejac but don’t stress out, happens to loads of people
since you work fine with other forms of sex, sounds like you’re just getting too excited too fast. so maybe try and work up to sex, being less horny (if possible) by thinking of things that are turn offs at first… it needs to be a longer tease if that makes sense… even if you have to start and stop. try just concentrating on pleasing her
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Sounds like your putting sex on a pedestal. Also could be a case of premature ejaculation although an odd case at that.
If you ejaculate that quickly, you should try waiting a while then having sex as soon as you are ready again.
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you are over stimulated when you go to enter her. you need to try to relax more. also if you are not using lube, try that and see if it will allow you more time before climaxing.
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you are over exited when going to enter.go slow at right time.at starting sometimes take small breaks. take her into confidence and when you are overheated stop and move slowly. all the best.
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I had similar problem and finally I concluded that it was due to my pre and deep involvement in the sex even before performing sexual intercourse and I as soon as I insert I would ejaculate. However, use of condom helped me lasting the process for around 7 – 10 minutes. Over a period of time it regulated. Avoid using too much tea, if you are having it. Try consuming some ripe dates and figs. Do not take water or any other liquid at least 30 minutes to 45 minutes before planned sexual intercourse. Hope things would work out well. All the best
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Your problem is probably driven by guilt or some other psychosis. You may or may not even be aware of what the problem is, but it may stem from cultural or social expectations in your country.
What happens is that the brain gets over stimulated by the expectation of having intercourse. It would seem that other sexual play does not have this same reaction with you.
Probably the easiest way to "fix" the problem is to engage in some other sexual activity (masturbation is probably best) beforehand and then let intercourse be your second (or third, or whatever) sexual activity. This way you will not be ib serious need of release and you may find that you can go slower. Try it four or five times to see if it works for you.
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its ok you will get better it will be all right thats natural i would just try to keep going then it might work if you can keep it up
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It does sound like you have pre-mature ejaculation. Honestly it would be really tough having it at your age because for some men it never goes away.
This is what I suggest. Masturbate before you know she is going to come over. That way when you have sex, it will slow you down a little bit. Or you can have her come over, please you untill you ejaculate, then once you lose your erection stimulate her untill you can get hard again and then start sex back up.
If that doesn’t help at all you are going to have to wait untill you are 18 years old, and then you are going to have to speak to a doctor about it, he might be able to give you some medication. However you have to be 18 to recieve it. Because in most states you have to be 18 before you can legaly have sex, some states the age of consent is 16.
-Connor
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quick and easy,
your getting to excited.
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